I’m a middle-aged bachelor, and I am a feminist. Yeah, you heard me.
I am all about the rights of women…particularly the right of a woman to walk about the world, and go about her life…without being afraid of violence.
I may be a male, but I do have women in my life that I care about. I have a sister, and she has two daughters. They are a big reason that I carry every day, because we spend a lot of time together. I made that commitment because I didn’t know how I would be able live with myself if we were out somewhere and one of them were hurt, while my gun was sitting at home.
So I got my concealed carry license, and carried everywhere I went. When they were old enough, my nieces learned that I carried, and why. All three of “my girls” knew that I was watching out for them, and they felt safer when I was along. But even then, I couldn’t bodyguard them 24/7.
And no matter what we do, time passes…my nieces are growing older. They’re teenagers now, venturing out on their own more often…learning to live their own lives, and make their own decisions…out from under what protection I can provide. This also leaves my sister, a single mother, looking squarely at “empty nest syndrome” in the not-too-distant future.
But here’s the thing: even if I could bodyguard them 24/7, I don’t want to. As concealed carry people we understand quite well that dependence on others, especially for our personal safety, is unhealthy. I don’t want that for any of the women in my life…or any woman, for that matter. I don’t want my sister to be afraid to go out at night, simply because I’m working and can’t tag along. I don’t want my nieces to be afraid to step out into the world, and into a fulfilling life of their own, just because they don’t feel safe.
I want them to be strong women, free to provide for their own safety…even when there isn’t a man nearby to protect them. I would want the same for any woman. No one should have to live their life afraid and helpless, so I rejoice at stories such as these from NRA Women:
With my sister and my nieces, I am doing my best to pass on the skills, knowledge, and the values of self-reliance. We go shooting together, and we talk. I want them to understand that shooting, whether for recreation or for protection…is for everyone. I want them to realize the freedom that a strong 2nd Amendment guarantees them, just like anyone else.